Sick Days and Shit Days.
When children are ill it is gross any way, but I realised whilst holding my child’s poo in my hand last night, that when you are a single parent it is extra tough. But mostly I was struck with…
I felt so guilty that I had to drag my child out to get medicine and supplies whilst he was so poorly. I felt guilty that his brother had to be picked up by a neighbour from school. I felt guilty that I wasn’t able to give his brother much attention when he got in from school, because I was so tired myself, and having to say, “hang on a minute I’m just cleaning up puke and poo.”
I want to ride my bicycle.
Debbie Murphy writes an honest and open account of her life being a single parent, and also as a survivor of breast cancer. Follow Debbie’s journey over on her blog Adventures of a Single Parent.
The thought of another woman ‘mothering’ my little boy has always filled me with dread and fear. A woman I know absolutely nothing about, a woman playing ‘happy families’ with my son and his father, taking over from me. My son not wanting to come home because he has a ‘mother and a father’ at his dad’s house. I am my son’s mother. He doesn’t need another mother.
But what does it actually mean to be a step parent? Do we automatically think of step-parents in a negative light? Cinderella and the wicked stepmother immediately comes to my mind!
Ramblings of a Mum in Cardiff and the Vale of Glamorgan.
Teaching your child to ride their bike is right up there with the first time they walk etc. It’s a huge moment for any child learning to ride their bike. Also it is something that single parents express that is especially a proud moment for them as they have done it, often, alone. So we have some tips from Bikeability Wales so that you can tick this off your list of what a super hero parent you are.
BikeAbility Wales is a charity that provides cycling opportunities to people of all ages.
First of all I want to start by banging on about the health benefits of being outside and having gentle exercise, as a positive way to manage your mental health. Including releasing endorphins which improves mood and reduce stress and anxiety, its such a good way to manage mental health.
It’s Maternal Mental Health Awareness week and this subject is very close to my heart and a lot of other single mums. As a single parent you are twice as likely to be depressed than a mum in a coupled relationship. I had Post Natal Depression with both of my children, and I want other mums to know that they aren’t alone in their dark feelings and thoughts at this difficult time of having a new baby.
High Days and Holidays
I’m so happy to see that there is a lot more awareness at raising girls in a more gender-neutral way, teaching them to choose which toys they’d like to play with, not directing them to certain types of clothing, and raising them to be strong and independent. We are seeing the rise of lots of little feminists and even the media changing with amazing Disney role models such as Moana.
Why I Blog...
Life as a lone parent can often bob along without you really noticing that you are not in a partnership and that your child/ren don’t have a relationship with their other parent; but, BUT there are some days of the year where it really does come crashing towards you like an asteroid on the path to destroy your equilibrium and happy bubble.
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Why I blog? First and foremost as a resource for my 5 year old son Rory. Up until he was two and a half years old, I had very few photos of us together. Not being very technical on the computer front, saving photos or backing them up was not on my agenda! So when I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer in 2014, I started taking as many photos as I could of my little boy on all of the adventures we went on.
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